Do your dating photos match the quality of the relationship you wish to create?
Why setting your relationship intentions and taking quality photographs influence what you attract.
Does a king attract a queen before building his inner kingdom?
In this day and age of digital dating and online resources at your finger tips, it would seem that finding an amazing relationship would be pretty damn easy. Just snap a few photos, share a bit about yourself, write about what you like to do; put it through an algorithm, and boom, you’re matched. And while serendipity does happen, that a match is made in heaven and both partners happen to have the maturity, shared values, internal integrity, common interests, emotional health, conflict knowhow, compassion or the willingness and awareness to learn the necessary tools to navigate the rough waters and thrive in relationship - it’s just not the norm. Most do no know they need to cultivate these strengths and set the intention of the relationship they desire. Not to mention that most people in the online dating world are using poorly lit, blurry, out of focus, inauthentic, creepy, scandalous, outdated pictures of themselves. Or worse, they are using photos of their cat or dog, a landscape they like, or anything that isn’t them. You get in life what you put into life, just like you get out of a relationship what you put into it. If you are building your inner kingdom with self-growth, integrity, values, boundaries, intent, and displaying this with quality photos that align with all of these attributes; then you will attract your king or queen.
When you invest in yourself and align it with intention, magic happens.
Here are some insights and questions that will help you assess if you are investing in yourself, and aligning your dating values, images, and goals:
When one determines what they want to do for a career, they look at what skillsets are needed, what degrees or certificates are needed, and then they complete the necessary requirements to pursue that career. Would you apply for a job you do not have the education, skills, talents, or knowhow to perform? Most likely, no, you wouldn’t. And if you did, you most likely wouldn’t get the job because there is someone who is more aligned and qualified to receive it. Then why is it, that most people apply this ignorance to dating and relationships? Determining your values and goals for dating and relationships should be one of your biggest and most important self-investments, just like earning a degree or certification is for a career. Why do you want to be in a relationship? What are your values? What are your boundaries and deal breakers? Can you hold yourself accountable if someone breaks your boundaries or deal breakers? Are you internally referenced or externally reference?
Would you use outdated car selfies, group photos with people cut off, a photo of your cat, or a photo of you standing in front of a bathroom mirror, with your lips puckered, for a job interview? God I would hope not!
Your relationship values and the person you will want to spend the rest of your life with, should be an intentional investment. First, you need to do a self assessment to define your relationship goals, your non-negotiable values, your flexible boundaries, your needs and wants, and then you need to do the necessary inner-work to make sure you are operating from an internal frame with integrity. This is how your build that inner kingdom!
Then you need to assess your photography. Are the photographs you’re using reflecting your values, your integrity, your interests, your quality of life, and your authenticity? Are they clear and in focus, properly lit, and stylistically composed? If you want to attract your king or queen, then you need to beautifully showcase yourself. Quality matters!
And you need to do both; build your inner kingdoms and properly show it off. So many profiles have one or the other. They may have decent photos, but they lack the quality of content which reflects who they truly are, or they may have great content but the photos leave the viewer questioning if they should pass or like.
Capture their attention and don't let them pass on by!
Most people are playing Russian Roulette when it comes to their love life, hoping for that Hollywood romcom moment, which most likely leads to unhealthy relationships, because those are based on illusions. You have to take control and create what you want with intention! Healthy, happy relationships take work, because once the honeymoon phase runs its course, the reality of your past will show up and if you haven't worked on it, it's typically going to sabotage. If you don’t work on yourself, you are just allowing unhealthy relationships to remain the norm. These illusions are built on fairytale storylines created from childhood stories and movies. Our childhood perceptions were highly distorted and highjacked! It is safe to say a lot of us were never modeled how to have a healthy thriving relationship, how to handle conflict and repair, how to heal childhood trauma, how to think and create for ourselves, or how to operate from an internally referenced frame where self love is the priority. Unfortunately, most were taught someone would save them, and everyone and everything outside themselves, would validate their needs.
It’s time for you to take control of your happiness and joy when it comes to finding and cultivating a loving thriving relationship, and it’s time to take control of your images that will attract that relationship. You decide what kind of relationship you want, and then say “no” to everything that isn’t that! Do not settle for a mediocre self, mediocre images, or a mediocre relationship.
My goal is for you to define your dating and relationship intentions; to build your inner kingdom, and then have me capture the true essence of who you are with correctly lit, clearly focused, stylistically composed, intentional photos, reflecting your authenticity!
Do your photos portray what you love to do? They should!
Your love life is the most important life investments you can make! It is just as, if not more important than the effort you put into your career. Your intimate relationship not only affects your health and happiness, it will also affect the health and happiness of your future partner and possibly your future children. When we love ourselves enough, to invest in ourselves, we give this gift of love going forward.
This is EMPOWERED PORTRAITS, and this is how your attract your king or queen!
Book your free consultation today, to meet with me one-on-one, and create a photo session that captures the true essence of who you are!
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